A person who is authentic, and cannot compromise being so, is brave.
What do they want from me? I don’t have something to offer that is ‘as good/amazing/inspirational’ as what the others have contributed. Or do I?
Who says I have to spend all of my time doing what others expect from me/need/want me to do? Who says it’s not my own perception that I’m projecting onto them? It is a common belief we teach others how to treat us. If this is true, then who says we can’t teach them not to expect so much?
Who says we can’t relax and just enjoy being ourselves, pursuing those creative dreams that make our hearts and minds dance and sing, swell with conviction and joy?
Who says I can’t sit here each morning and write for the love of writing stories, poems, articles, thoughts, whatever comes? I so need and love to write and create, but often feel pressured to produce ‘something good’ and I choke on the words.
I literally stumble and cannot write coherently on the page, too often, so often. Over-think the fragments of a blog post I’ve written and decide not to publish it. Or keep stalling on persevering on a longer project, organizing my work, or finishing that eBook, and getting it out there, for instance.
As I’m writing, I know this is bullshit. I can finish; I just psyche myself into doubting I can. I stop there, don’t walk through the resistance to the other side. Ok, but I do come back and try again the next day…
Who says you need to tough it out alone? The writer’s life is arduous and too much time is required to do your creative work in solitude already. You need support and companionship from kindred souls. Be it with other creatives or having a brief but pleasant exchange with the young cashier at the grocery store.
Every day, you need to feel known somehow. Or you falter.
Who says if we need such encouragement constantly that we are failures, or not strong enough or annoyingly self centered? Think of how much kindness and help you spontaneously give to others – freely. With love and the utmost respect in your heart.
Who says you can’t allow yourself to be vulnerable and ask for help from others so you can experience the same supportive love and respect back to you? Who says?
Thanks to Charlotte Rains Dixon and Jessica Baverstock’s Punch for Prompt which gave me: Who says? As serendipity would have it, immediately after writing this piece, I participated in a good discussion about releasing what you think others expect of you and focusing on true self-expression during a 5 Good Hours program session led by creativity coach Sue Mitchell.
Make sure to take the time to go read Jessica’s three great stories based on some of the prompts on Creativity’s Workshop as well as all her other great content.
Photo credit: Thanks to manicmorff on Morguefile for letting me morph his owl in Photoshop to include with my post.